by Morgan Wonderly | Femininity
Hey Ladies,
I just learned that this Thursday, September 27th is National Scarf Day. It’s the first of its kind and founded by the classic scarf company, Echo.
I have had a scarf obsession for many years now. I find that they are the perfect complement to any outfit to add additional color and style. As an image expert, when I work with my female clients, I always help them accessorize with at least a couple of beautiful scarves in their signature colors.
For example, one of my signature colors is red,
so I will often accent a basic blue, navy, teal, or cream dress with my favorite red Echo neck scarf to add interest and flair. Men tell me they are attracted to these neck scarves on us because they are flirty, feminine and draw attention to our lovely faces, particularly our eyes and smiles. To emphasize your eyes, wear a scarf that matches your blue or green eyes. To emphasize your lips and smile, wear a pink or rose colored scarf. A patterned scarf with two or more of your signature colors adds even more visual appeal.
With longer scarves, there are so many different looks you can achieve by wearing and tying them in different ways. You can simply Google ways to wear scarves. You’ll be surprised at the countless images of fantastic, fun, feminine looks.
If you’d like more help to enhance your feminine image, contact me at morgan@morganwonderly.com.
Morgan Wonderly,
Author of Simply Feminine and Image Expert
by Morgan Wonderly | Femininity
Authentic Feminine Traits
Checklist of qualities to focus on when adding more femininity to your life:
- Heart centered
- Compassionate/Empathetic
- Healing
- Beautiful
- Colorful
- Flowing
- Receptive
- Kind/Warm
- Nesting
- Graceful
- Life-giving
- Relationship-oriented/Connecting
- Lighthearted
- Intuitive
- Soft/Sensual
- Adorning
- Feeling-oriented
- Responsive
- Influencing
- Girlish/Free-spirited
- Notice details
- Curvy
- Needs to be seen
- Wants to be adored
- Nurturing/Supportive
- Needs to feel safe
- Complex
- Radiant Energy
- Full Spectrum of Emotions
Authentic Masculine Traits
Checklist of qualities to look for when seeking a healthy male counterpart:
- Leader
- Protector
- Provider
- Linear
- Logical
- Direct
- Stable
- Strong
- Simple
- Loyal
- Persistent
- Rugged
- Decisive
- Builders
- Assertive
- Hard worker
- Dedicated
- Steadfast
- Focused
- Reliable
- Courageous
- Driven
- Nuts and bolts
- Practical
- Producer
- Task-oriented
- Built for speed
- Angular
- Sees the big picture
- Needs admiration
- Motivated to be heroes
To learn much more about the masculine and the feminine and why we need both, check out my book, Simply Feminine: Surprising Insights from Men.
Ladies: If you’d love to enhance your feminine appearance, be sure to check out my makeovers and makeover services at SimplyFeminineMakeover.com and get your Free Image Evaluation at SimplyFeminineMakeover.com/mystyle.
by Morgan Wonderly | Femininity
- Soften your edges.
- Focus on the love in your heart.
- Practice being warm and kind to others.
- Practice surrendering to life.
- Relax more, breath deeper.
- Be open to receive.
- Be responsive to your man.
- Show your radiant smile.
- Be nurturing.
- Wear attractive colors.
- Create beauty around you.
- Beautify yourself.
- Feel gratitude for what you have.
- Practice admiring men.
- Move gracefully.
- Accentuate your curves.
- Laugh often.
- Go Barefoot.
- Choose to be happy.
- Be lighthearted and playful.
- Be curious about life.
- Forget your age and be youthful.
- Wear longer hair.
- Practice sensual rituals.
- Practice vulnerability.
- Use your intuition.
- Wear dresses/skirts.
- Think girl-next-door freshness.
- Practice the art of touch.
- Be classy in appearance and attitude.
To learn much more about the masculine and the feminine and why we need both, check out my book, Simply Feminine: Surprising Insights from Men.
Ladies: If you’d love to enhance your feminine appearance, be sure to check out my makeovers and makeover services at SimplyFeminineMakeover.com and get your Free Image Evaluation at SimplyFeminineMakeover.com/mystyle.
by Morgan Wonderly | Femininity
Authentic Feminine Traits
Checklist of qualities to focus on when adding more femininity to your life:
- Heart centered
- Compassionate/Empathetic
- Healing
- Beautiful
- Colorful
- Flowing
- Receptive
- Kind/Warm
- Nesting
- Graceful
- Life-giving
- Relationship-oriented/Connecting
- Lighthearted
- Intuitive
- Soft/Sensual
- Adorning
- Feeling-oriented
- Responsive
- Influencing
- Girlish/Free-spirited
- Notice details
- Curvy
- Needs to be seen
- Wants to be adored
- Nurturing/Supportive
- Needs to feel safe
- Complex
- Radiant Energy
- Full Spectrum of Emotions
Authentic Masculine Traits
Checklist of qualities to look for when seeking a healthy male counterpart:
- Leader
- Protector
- Provider
- Linear
- Logical
- Direct
- Stable
- Strong
- Simple
- Loyal
- Persistent
- Rugged
- Decisive
- Builders
- Assertive
- Hard worker
- Dedicated
- Steadfast
- Focused
- Reliable
- Courageous
- Driven
- Nuts and bolts
- Practical
- Producer
- Task-oriented
- Built for speed
- Angular
- Sees the big picture
- Needs admiration
- Motivated to be heroes
To learn much more about the masculine and the feminine and why we need both, check out my book, Simply Feminine: Surprising Insights from Men.
Ladies: If you’d love to enhance your feminine appearance, be sure to check out my makeovers and makeover services at SimplyFeminineMakeover.com and get your Free Image Evaluation at SimplyFeminineMakeover.com/mystyle.
by Morgan Wonderly | Femininity
“Enlightened or not, you are either a man or a woman, so on the level of your form identity you are not complete. You are one-half of the whole. This incompleteness is felt as male-female attraction, the pull towards the opposite energy polarity, no matter how conscious you are.”
– Eckhart Tolle, author of The Power of Now
The Importance of Polarity
For the sake of love between men and women, we need to restore masculine and feminine polarity. Just as opposite poles of magnets irresistibly pull together, gender polarity creates a powerful, dynamic sexual attraction when the opposite poles of masculine and feminine come into proximity. The experience we women have when we feel a weak-in-the-knees urge to swoon around a man with potent masculine energy exemplifies the power of this magnetic polarity. Its power is so great we sometimes feel helpless to its beckoning.
We may see couples with a connection so strong, we wonder, “What’s their secret?” Most likely that secret is their polarity; their strongly contrasting masculine/feminine energies. Polarity is what creates the inner fire that enlivens us when we encounter our counterpart. Polarity is what makes us feel “crazy” about each other and inspires us to great heights. When we take our femininity away from relationships, we take away polarity.
The differences between men and women create a sexual tension that draws us powerfully toward each other. The interplay between the masculine and feminine balances us when we unite. Feminine attributes are complemented and enhanced by masculine attributes. Contrasts between masculine and feminine can create immense value for us because where one gender lacks a strength, the other is likely stronger.
As a metaphor, observe the yin-yang symbol representing complementary essences. One side is black and the other is white. Both are equal in size and value. There is no inferior or superior. Each side has a smaller circle in it with the opposite energy. Similarly, when united, the feminine and masculine principles are complementary yet equal, forming a whole greater than the sum of its parts.
So, why should differences between men and women be seen as problematic? Men realize that feminine women complement them. I found they freely admit that a feminine woman is of great value to them because they feel most masculine in her presence. As she admires and appreciates her man, he wants to further impress her to win even more of her admiration. Thus, her admiration fuels his desire to provide for her and protect her. It’s a positive feedback loop that not only bonds the two together, but also makes both genders feel happy and fulfilled.
- In what specific ways have you noticed the genders blurring, if any?
- What does gender polarity mean to you?
- Why do you think we have stopped celebrating the inherent differences between men and women?
Learn more on this topic in my book at Amazon…Simply Feminine: Surprising Insights from Men. Praised and Endorsed by John Gray of Men Are from Mars, Women are from Venus”.
by Morgan Wonderly | Femininity
A man once said to me, “Do you know why men don’t have as many friends as women do? It’s because we’re too busy protecting and providing for women, most especially the one special woman.”
Mother Nature designed man with an instinctive drive to protect females and children. It’s as though Mother Nature whispered in his ear, “Protect her! Protect her!” As a Cherokee proverb says, “A man’s highest calling is to protect woman so she is free to walk the earth unharmed.”
We see this protectiveness in nearly all animal species. The mother protects her babies while the male protects both the mother and their offspring, even to his death if necessary. Subconsciously, men value women higher than themselves. That aspect alone should help us appreciate men more.
Today, men hear women say, “I don’t need a man to protect me.” Women have no idea what those words do to a man’s soul. Men need to be admired for being masculine—and that includes protecting women.
Safety and security sit right at the top of our needs as feminine women. It is always in the back of our minds when we’re driving alone at night, when we’re lost in a questionable neighborhood, or when we’re home alone and hear a strange noise outside our window in the middle of the night. We have traditionally looked to men for our safety. Men love to provide security for women because it makes them feel purposeful, needed, and masculine.
Good men want to be protective because doing so gives them great satisfaction. They don’t need us to protect them in return. They don’t need our money. They don’t need our gifts. What they need from us is admiration, appreciation, and affection.
For more information on understanding men, be sure to check out my book, Simply Feminine: Surprising Insights from Men here on Amazon.
by Morgan Wonderly | Femininity
In the not-so-distant past, men and women revered femininity because they understood its worth in mutual attraction, courtship, love, and marriage. Femininity was the cornerstone of a successful, functioning society, but especially since the 1960s, we’ve dishonored it.
We have confused tradition with nature. While traditions change over time, nature stays consistent for millions of years. Although we may now view femininity and masculinity as traditional social constructs, these essences are aspects of our nature. Femininity is a timeless truth that won’t disappear. Men of all ages innately understand this. Unlike fashion fads, femininity won’t go out of style. We can try to shame it away, but Mother Nature will always bring us back to what’s real.
The diminishment of femininity in recent decades has hurt men and women alike. We often hear about how women today are less happy than their mothers and grandmothers. We women have paid a high price by abandoning our true selves. The cost has been immense, especially in our love relationships with men.
As feminine women at our core, we will never feel deeply happy unless we reawaken our feminine nature, because that is where our heart lies. As long as we hide behind a mask of masculinity, we will remain unfulfilled because that’s not who we are. Men are waiting for our return.
by Morgan Wonderly | Femininity
It’s extremely important to point out that we as women need to know the difference between healthy men and unhealthy men. Unhealthy men, even though they might be truly financially successful, are for the most part highly insecure and are always looking for ways to prove themselves to the world. These are not the kind of men we want. These men are often narcissistic and will only bring us pain in the long run. They have little integrity or depth and will think nothing of lying to us or others to get what they want. Sadly, these are the types of men who seem to get all the press, while the quality men don’t get much play in the media.
Avoid Men Who
- Are highly insecure.
- Are overly jealous or possessive.
- Don’t support your passions/growth.
- Ignore you.
- Don’t adore you.
- Are hot and cold with you.
- Use or abuse you in any way.
- Are emotionally unavailable.
- Lie to you.
- Won’t commit to you.
- Don’t truly love you.
- Ask you to alter your body surgically.
- Aren’t proud to show you off.
- Are narcissistic.
- Lack clear direction and purpose.
- Are argumentative.
- Are without integrity
- Are rage-a-holics.
- Players who cheat on you.
- Cheat in business.
- Don’t care about others.
- Are “bad boys”.
- Are “Peter Pans”.
- Are passive-aggressive.
- Are manipulative.
Traits of Quality Men to Choose
- Emotionally healthy.
- Capable of loving.
- Secure in himself.
- Are available.
- Has integrity.
- Are trustworthy.
- Loves you unconditionally.
- Values who you are.
- Committed to you.
- Faithful to you.
- Loyal to you.
- Adores you.
- Supports your passion and growth.
- Are honest.
- Are giving.
- Are protective.
- Have similar values.
- Are admirable and respectable.
- Good conflict resolution skills.
- Enjoy being with you.
- Like who you are with him.
by Morgan Wonderly | Femininity
In case we need reminding, here are some of the things I learned to appreciate about men while writing my book Simply feminine…
14 Surprising Things I Learned from Men
- Men are more sensitive than we realize.
- Men rarely, if ever, gossip.
- Men won’t open up if we gossip.
- One of men’s greatest goals is to make women happy.
- Men need admiration more than they need love, or even sex.
- To men, the prettiest thing we can wear is our smile.
- Not all men are into large breasts.
- Men know what’s feminine because they are the beholders.
- Most men are touch starved today.
- Men are capable of loving more deeply than we are.
- Men need us to need them.
- Men need to impress us.
- Men don’t notice our little imperfections.
- Men see our beauty when we often don’t.
Examples of What Men Do for Us
Men have done the vast majority of the dangerous, dirty, and difficult jobs. In addition, they have fought our wars for us, and many have died.
To gain a greater appreciation of men and their masculinity, I’ve created a partial list of some of the dangerous and difficult jobs men do for the sake of keeping our society running smoothly. (Note that there are some women who perform these dangerous jobs too. However, feminine-core women rarely, if ever, have an interest in doing them.)
Dangerous, Difficult, Dirty Jobs Men Do
Armored car guard
Atomic power and chemical plant worker
Bodyguards
Bomb squad
Bridge builders
Cement makers
Coal miners
Coast guard search and rescue
Commercial fishing
Construction laborers
Crab fishing
Crop dusting
Deep-sea diver
Demolition workers
Electrician
Farming and ranching
Fireman
Fire truck driving
Forklift operators
High rise window washers
Industrial machinery workers
Land mine detector
Logging and timber
Military duty in conflict zones
Oilrig operators
Pilots (planes and helicopters)
Police officer
Power line installer
Refuge and recycling collecting (harmful chemicals, hazardous waste and dangerous machinery)
Rescue helicopter pilots
Road construction
Roofers
Skyscraper builders
Snow rescue
Soldiers in battle
Structural iron and steel workers
Taxi drivers/Truck drivers
by Morgan Wonderly | Femininity
Mother Nature engineered men to desire us and to feel energetically charged around us. They say they can feel this charge just by thinking about us! Nothing makes a man feel more masculine than being with a feminine woman who recognizes and acknowledges his manly qualities and gives him her nurturing, loving, soft energy. Her femininity brings extra vibrancy and life to his masculinity. But a woman who forsakes her femininity reduces her ability to energize a man, weakening the bonding force between them. Like a trellis without a vine, a man can feel his existence becoming barren, gray, and harsh without the nurturing presence of a woman in his life. It’s been observed time and time again that married men are happier and live longer than unmarried men. In other words, we are the icing on their cake, the cherry on their plain vanilla ice cream!
To learn more about what our femininity does for men and so much more, get your copy of Simply Feminine: Surprising Insights from Men HERE. You’ll be happy you did because it will change the way you see men forever!
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